Study Reveals Premarital Doubts Signal Trouble Ahead
A recent study conducted at the University of California, Los Angeles has confirmed that men and women who got married after having doubts were more likely to divorce. The study was conducted over a four year period and involving 232 newly married couples to determine whether premarital hesitation was a true indication of trouble to come, or simple anxiety about a life changing event.
The question proposed to the group was very simple, "Were you ever uncertain or hesitant about getting married?" The simplicity of the question only required a yes or no answer, without elaborating about why the individual was hesitant. The average age of the men at the time of marriage was 27 and the average age of the women was 25.
The lead author of the study, UCLA Doctorial candidate Justin Lavner, said that newlywed women who had premarital doubts prior to marriage were 2.5 times more likely to divorce within four years than those without doubts.
Interestingly, 47% of the men had doubts compared to only 38% of the women. However, the study, published in the Journal of Family Psychology, found that the doubts of women were better indicators of trouble in the marriage.
Sometimes couples said that they were aware of potential problems prior to marriage but they opted to ignore them. A comparison revealed that 19% of the women who had doubts divorced within four years versus 8% who had no doubts. For the men, 14% who had doubts divorced within four years compared to 9% who had no premarital jitters. If the only person having doubts was the wife, 18% of the couples ended up divorcing. If both the husband and wife had doubts, 20% of the couples ended up divorcing.
Husbands and wives who had doubts and were still married after four years, were considerably less happy than those who had no doubts. Another finding of the study indicated that although neither partner in 36% of the couples questioned had any doubts whatsoever about getting married, 6% of them still got divorced.
The study reveals that couples are going to be apprehensive about such a life changing event as getting married but these doubts should not be taken lightly, particularly if it is the woman who has them. Certainly, don't believe that these doubts will disappear or be conquered by love. The author of the study said "If anything, problems will more likely escalate."
UCLA Psychology Professor and co-author of the study, Dr. Thomas Bradbury, said that communication and resolution of premarital doubts prior to marriage is the best possible solution because resolving them after marriage, a mortgage and two kids is not likely.
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Pre-marriage Doubts Signal Unhappy Unions, Divorce, USA Today, Article by Sharon Jayson, September 14, 2012
Premarital Doubts are Legitimate Warning Signs, PsychCentral, September 14, 2012